What is Christian game?

What exactly is Christian game? You can find answers here and here. I was at a wedding recently and the elderly minister was preaching on Genesis 2. He went on about how the identity of the first woman, not just a wife but a woman, was based on her being a rib to the man. He said that a Christian marriage is not a Christian marriage unless the husband recognizes that his rib was taken out of him to form this woman, to care for her and protect her. Also, a Christian marriage is not a Christian marriage unless the wife realizes that she was taken out of the man's ribs. This minister saw all of the marital problems of the world being traced to this, that men and women have forgotten a) that the man was created first to be the leader, and c) that the woman's role is to complement the man. He even went on to say that unless she recognizes that she is a rib, she is not only rebelling against God but will be unfulfilled in life. 

That's the most red pill message I've heard at a Christian wedding. Typically, I hear wedding messages that are focused on love, or the husband and wives submitting to one another, and the like. This minister wasn't having any of that. So Christian game as I define it, first is mislabeled. It is not that game was understood and then it was Christianized, but rather in creating the world God established an order for men and women. The man was created first, and the woman was taken out of man. This is the order established by God, and to go against it would be to against God himself. 

Why all the problems then with Christian marriage? If two Christians understood this and hold to complementarian views, then why are there problems? This is complicated. I believe there are two examples in Genesis. 

1) Genesis 3:4 “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

The man followed the woman here and ate from the forbidden tree. God had specifically said no, you must not touch this. If Adam had replied to her, "No. God said we are not to do this." I believe perhaps the results for all of humanity would have been different. Yet, even though the woman had sinned first original sin is always labeled as "Adam's sin." Why? Why is it not called Eve's sin? The man was responsible as the leader to not only instruct his wife, but to say NO and call her out on her wicked ways. He did not. Thus, they both sinned and were kicked out of the garden of eden. 

2) Genesis 3:16 To the woman he said,“I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” 

So many marital issues and perhaps societal issues can be traced to the woman trying to usurp the authority God has given to the man, and the man letting the woman usurp his God given authority. 

So the Christian husband has a clear cut calling as a Christian husband. He has to call out NO to his woman when he notices her going astray, even in giving him fitness tests and the like. He has to learn to say NO and to maintain his authority or frame. He also has to recognize that b/c of her nature, the woman will try and go against God's decrees of the husband ruling or governing over the woman. She will try to get out of his authority. 

It's interesting that most game sites teach that once the man stops being confident, her desire for him will stop. Desire cannot be negotiated. Genesis 3:16 teaches that we are in God's order when the man leads his woman, and she has a strong desire for him. And so it begins...